我認為最悲哀的一句話之一是“我要離婚！”當夫妻二位面對問題、挑戰、困難時，他們應該離婚嗎？離婚並不是神的計劃和旨意。當耶穌基督討論婚姻時，他強調婚姻誓約的神聖性和重要。因此，人們不應該隨隨便便地離婚。當夫妻二位面對極大困難時，該怎麼辦？當配偶虐待你時，該怎麼對付？
請省察自己的心、態度和行為。配偶的行動是錯的，但是你的態度呢？請思考原諒他。有人說道：“原諒不表示對方沒有錯；原諒使你得自由”。你期待配偶懊悔、悔改嗎？請記住：通過耶穌，天上的神願意原諒你；你應該原諒你的配偶。原諒他，然後進到能力重新建立你的家。
家庭作業：
請夫妻一塊研讀以下的聖經經文：
馬太福音5:31-32, 19:1-12;
哥林多前書7:8-40；馬太福音 18:15-35
1）當配偶得罪你或傷害你時，你為什麼原應該諒他/她呢？
2）在私下，請夫妻列出十件事能夠使得配偶知道你愛他/她，
以他/她為榮，感謝他/她。
交換紙條後，在兩個月內做到每一項。
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12. Should I Divorce?
What sentence is sadder than, “I want a divorce!?” Should a couple divorce when they face problems? God doesn’t intend for homes to be broken. When Jesus discussed adultery and divorce, he emphasized thereby how holy and important the marriage covenant is; hence people should not divorce on a whim. What should you do when you face huge marriage problems? When ill-treated, how should you react? Probe your own heart, actions and attitudes. Your spouse’s actions were wrong, but what about your attitudes? Forgive your spouse. Someone said, “Forgiveness doesn’t make the other person right, it sets you free.” Yes, you hope your spouse will repent, but don’t wait on that. God forgave you; you forgive your spouse. Forgive, and then try to rebuild your home.
Read with spouse:
Matthew 5:31-32; 19:1-12;
1 Corinthians 7:8-40; Matthew 18:15-35.
1) Why should you forgive your spouse
when he/she offends or sins against you?
2) In private, each spouse list ten specific things
you can do to make your spouse know that
you love, appreciate and are thankful for him/her.
Give them to each other and then
do each of these things during the next two months.
By Edward Short / 作者：謝德華